Books I can recommend

I love reading, I always have. There are some  books that have changed the way I think about myself or life in general and I thought it would be cool to make a list. These are the books that I would save if my house was on fire. They are in no particular order.

Eat, Pray, Love – Elizabeth Gilbert
I wish the whole world would read this book! Please do yourself a favour and read it. There are parts you may not agree with and parts that you may find confronting, but it will make a difference in your life if you let it.

The Secret – Rhonda Byrne
This book changed my life overnight. I went from being a negative, critical person to realising that my thoughts and words can have really positive consequences. I know not everyone believes in the Law of Attraction, but I do since I have proved it over and over again since reading The Secret. Positive visualisation rocks!

Why Men don’t listen and Women can’t read maps – Allan & Barbara Pease
I read this book recently and I wish I had read it when my son was a baby. It explains the differences between men and women in a non-critical and judgemental way. I have never read such an understandable explanation of why people are born gay and lesbian and helped me understand a lot about myself too!

The Verbally Abusive Relationship / Controlling People – Patricia Evans
I have recommended this book a million times to people in abusive relationships, whether the relationship is a parent/child, employer/employer or a partner that is being abused. I believe these books saved my life- I read them when I was still with Mr Mean and they gave me the courage to kick him to the curb. If you are feeling a lack of empowerment in ANY relationship in your life, please read Patricia Evans. Please.

Without Conscience – Dr Robert D. Hare
The book that explained the conman. He describes the sociopath perfectly and more importantly, explains why I was so easily conned. After I read this book, I felt so much better about myself. I was NOT stupid, I was a victim of a skilled predator. This book has given me tools to recognise and prevent another sociopath gaining that amount of power over me again.

The Subtle Power of Spiritual Abuse – David Johnson & Jeff VanVonderen (If the name is familiar, he is on the show “Intervention”)
I cried buckets when I read this book. It freed me of so much guilt and shame that I had carried for years. My sister gave it to me and if I didn’t owe her before, I certainly owe her now! If you have read my Blog post about my experience with the church, you will have an idea of how I feel about the church and organised religion.

He’s just not that into you – Greg Behrendt & Liz Tuccillo
Such a great book to read! If you stick around with someone who is not really that into you, you won’t ever meet the person who is out there waiting for you. You deserve to be with someone who treasures you and enjoys you and if the alternative is being alone, then enjoy your freedom until he or she comes along! That’s the lesson I learnt from this book.

Don’t be that Girl – Travis L. Stork with Leah Furman
Everyone should read this book. That is all.

The Fountainhead – Ayn Rand
I first read this book about 25 years ago and have read it every 5 or so years since. It taught me that happiness will only come if I am living my authentic life – trying to be someone else will never make me happy.  I know some people love me, some people…not so much, but I have learnt over the years that if everyone liked me, I would not be living my authentic life. I would rather be true to myself than try to keep everyone else happy.

Cry the Beloved Country – Alan Paton
There are almost no words to describe this book. Growing up in South Africa during Apartheid, we accepted things that we really should not have accepted. Reading this book made me realise that things were not right. It changed my attitude to my country’s attitudes. When Alan Paton died I cried.

The Covenant – James A. Mitchener
An amazing author. In this book, he explained South African history like we never learnt it at school.

Tully – Paullina Simons
A gorgeous novel. I related so much to the main character. Not a life-changing book, but a great read.


3 Comments (+add yours?)

  1. Marriage
    Dec 27, 2011 @ 02:06:42

    Hey married2mrmean, I appreciate your blog.


  2. Kim K.
    Sep 19, 2013 @ 02:02:59

    Have you read The Gaslight Effect? I think you would like it! (And my twin sis and I loved Tully)!


  3. Christy wells
    Oct 06, 2013 @ 13:30:05

    10 years in a marriage with the man of my dreams and my nightmares. I am ready to move on but I can not understand why I worry about him. He is the kindest man and builds me up only to pull the rug from my feet and call me a whore, slut. When I complain about the hours I work he says you wanted that job. Even though he doesn’t wk consistently and the money I make gives our family security. He tells me I’m a bad mother but goes days without saying no more than a few words to our son. He ignores me calls me crazy. But yet I worry about him. I walk into our home and even in the silence I hear the walls screaming of past arguments and Im sorry from him. I tried hard for years to make it better because I can always feel the storm that brews from his inner being. He almost changes into a different person the man of my nightmares. Or as my 8 yr old son says the bad daddy. He has never been angry towards our son or hurtful. But he name calls, threatens, yells and throws things at me while our son can hear. My husband has told me atleast a 100 times he wants a divorce or for me to go to f***n town and get my divorce because I made a statement. He’s told if I’d just shutmy f***n mouth he wouldn’t get so angry. He’s even told me stories of his mothers abuse by his step father and if she had just shut her mouth it woulnt have been so bad. I’ve had surgery my belly swelled so bad with gas and incisions on my bottom and needed my bandage changed while he laid in the bed with me crying begging him to get up and help me… Why do I worry about him or even care has he broke my mind?my son said it best if you are cut with a knife it will heal but bad things people say stay with you till you die.


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