The Garden

Every life is a garden, and you are the gardener.

Each garden is different- some are beautifully landscaped, planned and prepared with care, with thought going into each stage. Some seem to happen by accident with almost no planning, no thought and no preparation.

These gardens will always grow, something will always manage to live in almost impossible conditions…..but will they thrive?

There there are the plants, the people that fill our lives.

Each plant has its own place in the garden, some are beautiful trees and bushes that continually flourish and flower regularly, some never stop flowering. These are the steady, strong friendships we carry throughout our lives, year after year. Those family members and friends who strengthen us each day, without whom we could absolutely not survive. The bring life, hope and courage to our lives.

Be grateful for these plants in your garden, they are the anchor plants around which the rest of your garden grows.

There are plants that flower every so often, releasing their fragrance intermittently, those people who seem to move in and out of our lives, they pop in, we lose touch, we find them again and again they are gone. An email here, an sms there, they are always friends, even though we don’t contact them regularly but you always know that they will be there one day.

There are no guilt feelings, just joy at making contact every so often. When you see that flower blooming in your garden you know the blooms will not last, but you are sure they will be back soon.

Then there are the flowers that bloom quickly, and just as quickly fade away to nothing, never to return but the memory and the photographs remain.

These are the holiday romances, the school friends you lost touch with, the family members who passed when you were a young child, the friends you have for a certain period of your life but then lose contact with.

They enhance your life while they are there and when they are gone you remember them fondly. They each add something to your life, and when they are no longer around you feel grateful that you had the experience because you learnt something about yourself, and the world around you. And they brought you joy, even for a short period of time.

And then there are the weeds.

The plants that do not belong in your garden. Some can look pretty, some don’t look like weeds at all, but slowly over time they move in and start to choke your very existence.

These are the control freaks, the ones that want that want to tell you how to run your garden, the negative ones who drain you of all energy, the demanding, critical horrible people that just seem to make you miserable and sap the very life out of you.

In the beginning they may seem harmless, attractive even, but over time they just seem to create more damage and destruction as they take root in your life. If not dealt with, they will destroy everything you hold dear in your precious garden of life. These weeds need to be destroyed at the roots, so that they can leave and never return. They need to be cut off at the very core, so that they cannot infect you or your garden ever again, so you can return to enjoying everything you have created around you.

The key as a responsible gardener is to know which plant is which.


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